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Respect Is Romantic
Heres why-
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Can we be real for a sec? Respect doesn’t always feel sexy. It’s not lingerie or candlelight or passionate text messages.
But you know what it is?
It’s the reason all of that means something.
Because respect is what makes love safe. And when love feels safe? It gets deep. It gets sacred. It gets spicy.
Hold your partners humanity.
What Respect Really Means in Marriage
Respect isn’t just politeness. It’s reverence. It’s how you hold your partner’s humanity.
Even when you disagree. Even when they disappoint you.
It’s not about putting them on a pedestal—it’s about not tearing them down.
You can love someone and still roll your eyes at them. But respect? It says, “Even when I’m frustrated, I still see your worth.”
(Even When You Don’t Mean It)
How Disrespect Shows Up
Sometimes it’s obvious. Sometimes it’s sneaky.
Cutting them off mid-sentence.
Making jokes at their expense.
Correcting them in public.
Offering advice when they didn’t ask.
The infamous sigh + side-eye combo.
It’s death by a thousand dismissals.
But when you choose respect—even in a moment of tension—you create emotional safety. And that’s the kind of romance that lingers long after the candles burn out.
Turn Up The Romance
(Even if it feels insincere at first!)
Romance without respect is just performance. It’s love on eggshells.
But when you feel respected? You soften. You open up. You let yourself be seen.
Respect builds trust. And trust is the doorway to intimacy.
You’re not walking on emotional landmines—you’re walking into sacred space.
Real-Life Moment:
Snapping or Softening
One night James and I were in the kitchen. He forgot something (again). I was about to launch into my default sarcasm.
Instead, I paused. Looked him in the eyes. And said, “Hey, I know you didn’t mean to. I know you love me and you always help me.”
He nodded, softened, and we actually connected.
That shift? It came from choosing respect over reaction.
Speak to their greatness
Want to build Respect? Start Here
- Listen to understand—not to fix or correct.
- Speak to their greatness, not just their gaps.
- Pause before responding.
- Treat their emotions as valid—even when they’re messy.
FAQ
What if I don’t feel respected in return?
You can model it without being a doormat. Boundaries + respect = self-honoring love.
What if my partner thinks I’m being too “soft”?
Respect isn’t weakness. It’s strength in softness. Let your firmness come from love, not control.
Can respect really bring back romance?
Absolutely. When we feel safe, we let our guard down. That’s where real connection begins.
How do I ask for more respect without sounding critical?
Use “I” statements. Try: “I feel dismissed when I’m interrupted. Can we work on that together?”
Is respect different for men and women?
Respect matters to everyone. But the way we give and receive it can vary. Get curious about your partner’s heart.
Can we rebuild respect after years of resentment?
Yes—with honesty, humility, and tools. That’s what we do in coaching and retreats. It’s never too late.
